Lately, I’ve had to teach my son to fight, and learn to defend himself. Why? Because other parents aren’t doing their job. When he was 8 and growing his hair to donate, two little girls had viciously pulled his hair and bullied him. There was also a time when an angry child in grade 4, attacked him and all his friends while playing soccer at recess. Recently, a kid jumped on his back and tried to choke him in front of the daycare providers (who btw never even mentioned this to me or wrote up a report about the incident, although the child attacked my son twice!)
About four years ago, the closest person in my family was stabbed in an armed robbery, just standing at a bus stop after night school. What do all of the kids and the robber have in common? I dare not mention, lest I be politically incorrect.
I say, for stereotypes to go away, the majority must fall on the good side. But that’s just my opinion. The worst part of all this is that all the efforts of the good parent-and yes there are good and bad parents- are challenged by lazy and neglectful parents. My son has always been the sweet little boy, with a gentle heart, but it’s peeving when I have to spend my Saturday afternoons fighting him and stating every possible scenario, just to get him to think of quick reactions. When the teachers don’t do sh** all to fix the problem, and when the school doesn’t suspend, expel, nor do anything to give the “bad kids”consequences for their actions, some of us have to take things into our own hands. I tell my son to defend himself now.
It’s not my job to worry about why the other kids are the way they are. The world needs to stop telling everyone to do that, because that’s THEIR PARENTS’ job, and perhaps the teachers, and social workers, and schools job. NOT MINE! My job is to protect MY child, and bring up MY CHILD. And straight up, I think I speak for many others when I say, dear lazy and neglectful parents, we do not want to and will not, deal with the results of YOUR BAD PARENTING!